“You’re Not a Girl, You’re a Mom!”

Like I do almost every morning, I was explaining to my son that he needs to knock on the bathroom door before entering. I explained that girls need privacy and it’s not polite to just walk in. His response: “You’re not girl, you’re a mom.” Doesn’t that just sum up motherhood?

I am a mom of 2 boys so that means I don’t have tutus or pink bows scattered around my house. There are no ballet recitals or shopping sprees to look forward to. Don’t get me wrong, I love my boys but being the only girl in a house full of boys can be rough at times. They don’t understand about privacy, getting “pretty” and other things they NEVER have to experience or deal with.

Being a mom often means that is what you are, just a mom. Kids don’t see you as a lawyer, a chef or a teacher. They don’t see you as a sister, daughter or aunt. In fact, I have found that concept is quite difficult for them to grasp at times. Kids don’t see us as women, we are just MOM. I love being a mom but that is not all I am. I believe that in order to be the best mom I can be there must be other interests and passions in my life. Being well-rounded as a person is what makes me a better mom.

So why am I sharing this? Because I want moms to know it is okay to be a girl not just a mom. It’s okay to take time for a pedicure, a kickboxing class or a night out with friends. It’s okay to join a book club or knitting club. It is definitely okay to follow your dreams and passions whether that is to start your own business, travel or get a degree. Just like we tell little girls to follow their hopes and dreams, we need to do the same for ourselves. We need to be role models for our kids and that means being our own person and pursuing what makes us happy! So Dream Big Mom, Dream Big!

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